Love and such

And so I grew up in a world of humans
Where they told me this lie
And like a fool, I believed it.

They tell it to everyone.
Everyone tells it to everyone else.
And it shapes and forms our lives
Into everything they say it is supposed to be.

So many different ways
They communicate this lie.

Sometimes, it goes something like this:
"If you're not in love, you're worthless."

Or this:
"Being in love is what we were created for.
You will never truly be alive until you are in love."

The thing about love is that I am really quite fond of it. It would seem unnatural to have a disliking for it.
I think love in its most raw form is the most beautiful, breath-taking gesture in existence.

But then there's this:
"If someone loves you and then stops loving you, you become worthless, powerless, and naked."

Love is great. Perhaps I love it.
But these lies we keep buying
...they are a load of crap.

Because when we believe that lie long enough
It begins to create a hole inside of us --
A hole that we do not allow to be filled
By anything but sappy, touchy-feely, passionate in-love-ness.

And then that hole starts growing
And the longer we go without being in love,
The less we feel like a worthy member of society.

The longer we go without being in love,
The bigger the hole grows,
The more fervently we search for love,
The crappier we feel about being single,
The lower our standard becomes for a mate,
The less secure we feel in ourselves,
...the bigger the hole grows.

"If you're not in love, you're as good as dead."
"If you're not in love, you had better be looking for love."
"If you're not in love, then why are you here?"

Hey.

HEY.

Don't buy that crap.

You are independent and beautiful.
You are loved and you have a purpose.
You are worthy all on your own.
So shine in your singleness.
Fill that hole with family and friends and
Sunny days and soft melodies.

"So maybe there's a war, inside of me and for me and maybe my heart is the opposite of small. Maybe it's the opposite of cheap and empty and alone. Maybe it's sacred and enormous and wild." (Jamie Tworkowski)

Be free.

...and so I grew up in a world of humans
where they told me this lie.

Don't be a fool.
Never believe it.

"And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. 
God is love.Whoever lives in love lives in God,
and God in them." --1 John 4:16